Interviews & Hype: “I Used To Like Women With Big Hips But I Woke Up One Morning And Everything Changed” - Don Jazzy

Earlier this year, Mavin record boss, Don Jazzy told our correspondence that slim ladies do not turn him on. “With due respect to slim ladies, there is no way any lady shaped like a broom can attract my full attention. I’m sorry but that’s the truth. My ideal woman must be God-fearing. She must have all the basic curves in the right places. The rounder and bigger her chest and backside, the better,” he told our correspondence.
 
Well, his taste has changed, he now appreciates slim ladies more.

In a very recent interview with our reporter, he said "See, I’m very very dangerous in the sense that my mind can change sometimes. For instance, a lot of people used to think that I like people with big hips and big ny-nsh – big–figured people. But I woke up one morning and everything changed. I’m a totally different person now and I like my women straight up from the runway – Lepa toh bad (Smiles)".

Some of my friends say I’m having midlife crisis, but that’s what I like now. So, I might just be saying I don’t know when I’m going to get married, but all of the sudden you’ll hear that I’ve gotten married. I like my privacy, so I might just get married and you’d hear that I got married three months ago or something like that. It’s not like I don’t want people to come for my wedding o!
 
It’s just that I don’t like the story. I don’t want a situation where I will tell you people “oh! This is Onome and this is when I want to get married”. I have done that in the past, introducing my girlfriend, but people would just jinx it for us because they will just put their eyes on our thing and it might just spoil things.

Gossip & Gists: Actress Stella Damasus Advices Women On How To Keep Their Men

Actress Stella Damasus took to her Adiva blog yesterday to advice women on how to keep their men, read it below.

"...let me go to the topic I want to discuss today "keeping your man" This is for the married women o please this is not targeted at single girls. Now we know that the one thing men cannot live without apart from money is SEX. In this forum I really don't care where anyone is from or what religion you belong to, I will be as raw and honest as possible.

I do not understand why women especially Africans do not talk about sex when we know that it is the one thing we do regularly with so much pleasure."

Keeping Your Man - By Stella Damasus

Hello ladies,

Been a while since you read from me and I am sorry about that. However I never said I would be the only one writing for this blog. I threw it open to members to send in their articles, concerns, challenges, questions and other things to the Adiva email address and we will publish it.

Not only that, we will get the experts/professionals to help answer some of your questions, I am still waiting to hear from you all.

Anyway I have good news and that is the fact that you will be able to watch me talk more/elaborate on things I will write in the blog. Yes o my YouTube channel will be very very active soon with my new project called Stella's diaries.

You all need to look out for it because it will be very exciting as usual. I will say it the way I see it and I am sure by now most of you know I am not ashamed or afraid to speak my mind.

Anyway let me go to the topic I want to discuss today "keeping your man".This is for the married women o please this is not targeted at single girls.
Now we know that the one thing men cannot live without apart from money is SEX. In this forum I really don't care where anyone is from or what religion you belong to, I will be as raw and honest as possible.
 
I do not understand why women especially Africans do not talk about sex when we know that it is the one thing we do regularly with so much pleasure.

Anyway our men love sex to the max and we know that for a fact. So how come when we are dating them we are so willing to give them what they want even though we know it is wrong. The first few years of marriage is filled with sex almost five times a day in different parts of the house and at odd hours, but after the few years we start to back down, we start to make excuses, we start to see it as a chore and then we let them know that we are really not interested in them physically.

Wow, what happened to the lady fox, the hot chic, the sexy cat that he got married to?
What happened to the babe that would understand the signal he would give and immediately comply?
What happened those times when he would race home to his sexy energetic ever ready wife who would make him feel wanted?
I know that most of you will say "I have kids who wear me out, I have work that drains me, I got older, my sex drive has gone under, I have a headache" to the point that the man will need to get a visa at your "embassy" to visit his favorite place in the World.

When you do this to him, how do you expect him to come home everyday to look at your tired, grumpy and unfriendly face?

How would you expect him to come home to you complaining about the plumber, your child that was being rude, and your boss that gave you a hard time?

NOOOOOOO please.
 
At that point he wants you to take him to that special place were the sky is so wonderful and turn his brain around to the point that all you say will sound like sweet music to his ears.
 
These men are human beings who go through their own challenges, half of which you don't even know because they are trying to save you from all the stress.

What annoys me the most is when we women start to complain and nag about the men not having time for us, and how they no longer find us attractive anymore and that's where the suspicion starts. That's when the saying comes, "if he is not getting it from me someone else must be giving it to him’.
 
I don't encourage cheating at all in fact it goes against what the bible teaches no matter what. I will not also judge anyone who has been caught in a web he is not proud of for one reason or the other. I believe that if we are truly sorry for our sins and we go to God with the determination not to sin again, he is merciful and will forgive us.
 
In all of this I know that all men are not beasts, neither are they evil because we married them. I also know that men do not get married and carry it at the back of their minds that they must cheat. That's not how it works please. There are things that we do that trigger things in their brains and these things drive them to do things that they really would not have done. Most of us believe it when they say men don’t think with their brains but they think with their penis. I beg to differ because they know what they are doing and I don’t see how the penis can have a brain that will control the whole body. There is always something that sparks off in the brain that sends the signal to the penis.
 
You may or may not agree with me but this is what I choose to believe. Most men we married are not so evil and dubious, some may be cowards but cast your mind back to the kind of man you chose to marry and see if there were traces of that character or not.
What Men Want

- They want to feel like they are in control of things which is not bad because they are the head.
- They want to feel loved and like it or not they are our first babies who desire words of affirmation no matter how macho they seem.
- They want to feel WANTED all the time, it gives them the confidence that all men crave for.
- They want to know you are still sexually attracted to them.
- They don't want you to make it obvious that you are smatter even if you are.
- They like their space and alone time.
- They don't want to come home to a fat mama who is the opposite of the sexy curvy woman he fell in love with, because she let herself go after they got married. Why should she try and look the same? She is married now, who else does she have to impress? WRONG! Men are first of all moved by what they see before anything else. So when they can't see that anymore or at least an effort to getting back that body that turned them on, they'll probably lose interest in you and find it someone else.
- They don't want to come and hug you after work with you are smelling of onions and oil. At least take a shower before he gets there or if there is no time spray perfume.
- They want to come home to a nice smelling neat and tidy home.
- They want to walk into the bedroom with the bed all made up and clothes arranged. Maybe a small note on his pillow saying I love you and I am glad you are home, that definitely puts an automatic smile on his face even if for three seconds, it keeps him interested in you
- They want you to be a good listener not just a talker.
- They want to know that you believe in them and you are proud of them.
- They want to know that no matter what you will have their back and support them, then ask questions later.
- They just want to see that you are making an effort because no human should expect you to be perfect.
- They don't want another mother but they want you to take care of them the way you would your kids.
- They want a wife, girlfriend, sorry to say (personal call girl) which is not a bad thing because he is your husband who is free to express his sexual desires as long as they are not life threatening or demeaning.

There are so many things I can add and you will not stop reading so let me end this by saying: if you do not try to do at least 60 percent of this regularly, trust me a younger version of you will cross his path and that is exactly how the enemy works. When that younger and more energetic version of you catches his eye, your matter will quietly end. This girl will rock his world so bad that coming home to you will become a chore. These girls can give him all these things and even more that the men find it so difficult to resist. All the money that was supposed to go to you and your children will find their way to her pocket. They can get anything they want from your man because they know the secret to getting and keeping him.
 
I know that this article will cause a lot of controversial wahala but it is fine because in life people don't like to hear the truth. This might also be an opportunity for people to make silly comments but the truth is I am loving it all. I finally have the attention of people who will ordinarily not want to listen to me or watch me.
Ladies on a more serious note, if you are guilty of these crimes and are depriving your husband of what is rightfully his then don't be shocked when a younger version of you gets the best of him.
 
I will let you all know when the extended version of this topic will be on my YouTube channel. God will bless your homes and give you the wisdom you need to keep it together.
Think about this objectively, try out what you agree with and discard what you don't. Leave the messenger out of it for a change and see the bigger picture ahead.
Take care of yourselves and remember that I love you all.

Gossip & Gists: Non-African Women, What You Should Know And Do When Dating An African Man (Guide)

I bet everyone wants to know what I believe a Non-African woman should know before dating an African men. Correct? Okay before I begin let me just say: Am I saying all African men are the same? No!! Am I saying majority of them have mommy issues?

Maybe. lol. Dealing with an African men takes lots of patience, the only reason why we, African women have an easier time handling them is only because we are surrounded by them constantly and grew up around them, I know they can be frustrating at times.

God has blessed and created the most beautiful, handsome, manly men in Africa. 

However, our fine brothers have started looking into other ethnicities and are beginning to date interracially (putting their chocolate cookie in sugar cookies, raisin cookies, and Macadamia cookies) and it’s okay. One can not stop what the heart likes. There are lots of handsome men out there, in different continents and countries so I’m here to give advice on some things a Non African woman should have in the back of her head when dating an African man.

Here’s a list of what you can expect so you are well prepared:

Henny, dark liquor, Stout, or Heinkein or other heavy beers are their drink of choice. 

I don’t know why maybe it’s they want to have that drink as their “special drink” because it’s one of the few drinks most women wouldn’t necessarily see as their drink of choice. Yuck! So the men drink it right up! Oyinbo/Akata: Have at least a case in your house, if your man drinks alcohol and comes to your place and sees you have some, he will be a happy man.

COOK!! COOK!! COOK!!

Even if you don’t like to cook, try and cook a few meals a week. A Nigerian man loves with his belly amongst other things. You know what I’m talking about. Cough. A Nigerian man wants to be able to know that you can properly feed him.

Oyinbo/Akata: Cook your favorite meals, make sure it’s good, Nigerian men are spoiled by the sweet taste of their mother’s cooking so you are going to have to put that work in the kitchen. No African man is always going to want to do take out or go to a restaurant all the time. He wants to know you can cook!

Meat and fish are your best friend

I don’t care, I have yet to meet an African man that doesn’t like meat or fish. When you cook, you must add chicken, goat, turkey, or fish in a man’s food, if not it’s not a complete meal. I’m serious Give him a plate of rice without meat or fish and see his face.

Alpha male

A.M want to show how they are a man, they could show it through their fortunes, how they treats you, or by their religious and mental level. Some times you have to let a man be a man. Nigerian men have big ego and for some enough pride to stretch from here to China. Nigerian men are taught to be the head in the household, the need to take care of certain obligations for a woman comes naturally for them. (Paying for the date.)  They don’t like to feel belittled or not in control, and because of that some are very argumentative and aggressive to protect that Alpha male, macho man persona.

The most sensual, sexual guy you will meet.

I don’t know what it’s like in the open public between you and your African man but I can almost guarantee it’s great behind closed doors, when you guys are… You know what. cough. An African man wants to pleasure his woman, and give her a good sexual experience; married or dating. Nigerian men consider themselves great lovers, if only that were true but even though this might not be exactly true for all Nigerian men, they at least try and put that work in, if you know what I mean.

Nigerian men are crazy but that’s only because they love hard. As much as they might be a pain in your butt or do things that might frustrate you, an African man has all the capability of loving and treating a woman like a queen.

Dating them could be a little challenging if not used to African men, but with some understanding, love, respect, and some home cooking, you will do just fine.